WHY FEEL BAD TAKING LESSONS ELSEWHERE?
I have run into this situation many times and for some reason I feel compelled to write about
Here is the scenario. You decided you are going to take dance lessons. You chose a studio,
Studio Chiki Chiki. A few months later you met other people that are also taking dance
lessons BUT at a different studio, Studio Buga Buga. These people have invited you to take
lessons with them at Studio Buga Buga and also attend their dance. What do you do?
You are torn!! You feel that if you say yes, you are committing a sin! You are not
"loyal" to the studio you are currently taking lessons from. You feel like a traitor. You
feel that you might hurt your instructor's feelings if you take additional lessons elsewhere.
You feel like you will be disowned if you dance at another studio's dance party. But
you want to because you want to meet others, learn from another instructor and expand your
It is understandable that when you have taken many lessons from a studio and from a
particular instructor, you will feel some sense of "loyalty" because of the familiarity of the
studio and the instructor. You are comfortable. The dilemna comes in when you are made to
feel that it is bad to take lessons or dance elsewhere. This comes possibly from other
students or the studio. Here is the question, Is it "really" an act of "disloyalty" if you
attend another studio's dance or take lessons from another instructor at another
Let's look at some of the benefits of taking lessons and attending dances of other studios and
1. You get to meet OTHER dancers.
2. You get to see how others dance.
3. You get to learn from others.
4. You get to see other parties and create new experiences.
5. Your experience will grow as you learn from other instructors.
6. You become a better dancer by taking lessons from MANY instructors.
7. YOU have this FREEDOM to go anywhere YOU please and to take lessons from
anyone YOU like.
8. There is no feeling that you have to answer to anyone.
9. You broaden YOUR horizon.
10. Networking is great!
Here is a fact - You are an individual that can make the choice on your own as to whom
you want to take lessons from and where. It could be from one instructor or multiple
instructors at SEVERAL studios. YOU can dance wherever you please. No one can stop
you except YOU.
There are many options out there. Explore them. You will be surprised how much fun it is
to go to other dances. It is so much fun to meet other people.
Personally, I encourage my students to take lessons elsewhere and to dance everywhere
they can. You can always learn something from other instructors. It helps the students
be better dancers. I have seen it and have done it myself. I am the instructor and dancer that
I am today because I had multiple instructors, travelled to dance and mingled with others to
learn and to have fun. I hope you do the same.
So, here is the question again, answer it truthfully and be real to yourself,
Is it "really" an act of "disloyalty" if you attend another studio's dance or take
lessons from another instructor at another studio?
I hope this article has helped in some way those who are struggling with this scenario. One
thing to keep in mind, it should be about YOU and no one else. Be loyal to YOU.
Empower yourself to choose what YOU want. Remove the chains and have FUN!
Author: John "salseroblanko" Morey - SALSA SPECIALIST -